Twitter This Twitter Thread About Having Sex With Fat People Has Gone Viral For All The Right Reasons

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On Friday, Dec. 20, @Shaanlashun on Twitter started a thread on having sex with fat people. The thread begins with: “I have sex with fat people, and it’s not revolutionary: a thread.”

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In it, Sean explored the stigmas, both the negative and the “sensational”, around sexual encounters with fat folks…

twitter I'm super leery of non-fat people who frame sex with fat folks as an act of liberation. Similar to when they do it to trans folks, it's always seemed very

I’m super leery of non-fat people who frame sex with fat folks as an act of liberation. Similar to when they do it to trans folks, it’s always seemed very “sensational” to me.

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…and how choosing to be with someone is not something that needs recognition or commending:

twitter I'm often complimented or thanked about my profile language on The Apps™. 

All they say are that I'm trans, don't like white people, and am into HIV+ folks, femmes, and all kinds of bodies. Nothing about this deserves to be complimented or thanked.

I’m often complimented or thanked about my profile language on The Apps™.

All they say are that I’m trans, don’t like white people, and am into HIV+ folks, femmes, and all kinds of bodies. Nothing about this deserves to be complimented or thanked.

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The thread even addressed how social conditioning has played a role into how we THINK sex is supposed to go:

twitter And the fat folks who have

And the fat folks who have “joked” about being too big for my small frame to handle, and were speechless when I knew how to make things work. (Meaning: not expecting their bodies to do the same things or move in the same ways as thin bodies.)

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As well as how it’s OK to understand that “sex isn’t ‘one mode fits all.'”:

twitter It's okay to admit that there are tips and tricks to sex with fat folks. There are also tips and tricks to sex with trans folks, disabled folks, etc. Sex isn't

It’s okay to admit that there are tips and tricks to sex with fat folks. There are also tips and tricks to sex with trans folks, disabled folks, etc. Sex isn’t “one mode fits all.” Our bodies are different, so our sex needs to be different, too.

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And that instead of focusing on fatphobia or fat fetishization, just be with someone because you want to be with them.

twitter Having sex with fat people isn't a political statement.
I don't do it because I'm a radical.
I don't do it in the name of liberation. 

I do it because shorty is fine af and I like butt touchin.

Having sex with fat people isn’t a political statement.
I don’t do it because I’m a radical.
I don’t do it in the name of liberation.

I do it because shorty is fine af and I like butt touchin.

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“In the moment, I was reading one of the articles I posted toward the end, the one from Salty,” the writer told BuzzFeed. “At first, I was thinking about how the article resonated with me re: fetishism, because much of what I hear about fatphobia sounds ‘similar’ to my experience as trans (among other things). And I was just thinking back on interactions I’ve had with fat folks re: sex. One annoyed tweet became a ‘rant’ and now here we are.”

twitter I have sex with fat people because they're hot.

Not because they're fat.
Not in spite of them being fat. 
Not b/c it's

I have sex with fat people because they’re hot.

Not because they’re fat.
Not in spite of them being fat.
Not b/c it’s “more cushion for the pushin.”
Not b/c they “wear it well.”
Not b/c “thick thighs save lives.”
Not b/c they’re “big but healthy.”

Because. they. are. hot.

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“As for what I hope people take from it, tbh I wasn’t even thinking about that when I tweeted. I actually debated if it was even my place, as a thin person, to say those things because I didn’t want it to seem like I wanted cookies or something.”

twitter Nothing I'm saying is new, btw. Fat folks have BEEN talking about fatphobia in sex culture, queer politics, etc.

Nothing I’m saying is new, btw. Fat folks have BEEN talking about fatphobia in sex culture, queer politics, etc.

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“Sadly, I know people often only listen to people who look like them, so I guess it’s ultimately something I want other thin folks to read and keep in mind as they do hoe shit. There are so many ‘subtle’ ways fatphobia comes up, and it’s important for thin folks to do better about clocking it and knowing how to respond and interact.”

twitter Folks stay trying to offer witty qualifiers about why fat people are attractive. Celebrate fat bodies without the backhanded

Folks stay trying to offer witty qualifiers about why fat people are attractive. Celebrate fat bodies without the backhanded “compliments.”

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People on Twitter were not only appreciative of the thread, but also began sharing their own unique stories, like this person who was happy there was “mention of disabled bodies.”:

twitter @shaanlashun Thank you for this thread & including the mention of disabled bodies. Especially as I'm sue you are aware many disabilities lead to weight gain and bias against bigger bodies goes on in medicine as well as dating. Fatness gets treated as a moral failure, loving a fat body is -

@shaanlashun Thank you for this thread & including the mention of disabled bodies. Especially as I’m sue you are aware many disabilities lead to weight gain and bias against bigger bodies goes on in medicine as well as dating. Fatness gets treated as a moral failure, loving a fat body is –

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This person shared their experience, and said, “Honestly thank you for posting this”:

twitter @shaanlashun @metroadlib Honestly thank you for posting this. I literally got told yesterday from the roomie who bought me the chair I wanted for Xmas, that he was worried I was too fat to sit in it. He tainted the chair for me and I had to not cry at the party. This has lifted my spirits.

@shaanlashun @metroadlib Honestly thank you for posting this. I literally got told yesterday from the roomie who bought me the chair I wanted for Xmas, that he was worried I was too fat to sit in it. He tainted the chair for me and I had to not cry at the party. This has lifted my spirits.

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This person also addressed the “unlearning” that takes place daily:

twitter @shaanlashun It's so wild reading this after the years I've spent unlearning what people have taught me about being fat. I still have days where I question the loml bc he is 170 &I'm 245 and surely attractive men can't be into fat women genuinely? There has to be a catch right? Apparently not

@shaanlashun It’s so wild reading this after the years I’ve spent unlearning what people have taught me about being fat. I still have days where I question the loml bc he is 170 &I’m 245 and surely attractive men can’t be into fat women genuinely? There has to be a catch right? Apparently not

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All I can say is YES BABY to all of this!


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